We haven’t ever had to wonder when our next meal will be, if there will ever be some one to hug us and say “I love you”, or a family to be there to celebrate our next milestone. Yet, there are over a million children that do.
- We are adopting because when we were lost and abandoned, God adopted us into His kingdom. We love because He first loved us. We hope to teach our son and our future children the depths of God’s grace and love through this adoption process. I’m sure God has an abundance more He is going to teach us through this process as well.
- When we got married we knew one day we wanted to raise kids that weren’t initially born to us but always meant to be ours to love and care for.
- When we started the simplest form of fertility treatment to get pregnant we both agreed if the medicine did not work after 3 months we would not peruse it any further and adopt. That idea of adoption never wavered. In fact, it continued to grow. Now, we are ready for another child. We know we CAN get pregnant with little medical intervention but our hearts want so badly to give a child the love of a mother, father and family that they might not know otherwise.
- We know these ideas may seem idealistic or we may sound naive at times. We probably are. This process of raising a child “from a hard place” is going to press us many days and blow our minds at others. However, we feel God telling us this is what we are to do. The stress, the money, the sleepless nights, the paperwork, the waiting, and the heartbreak is worth it – not only for our child but for our God. So, with blind and maybe naive faith – here we are!
October 16 we filled out a preliminary application. November 20 we had orientation. A more in depth paperwork was submitted on January 9 and our home study is scheduled for February 20. It should be 12-18 months from this past November until we get to meet our precious child and bring him or her home. Though my stomach is not growing, our hearts certainly are!
We know at times this journey is going to be harder than we can imagine. It is going to require more faith than we have ever been required to have before. This is a good thing. This process of heartbreak and waiting is nothing compared to the life that our little one has already been through and nothing compared to what our Savior went through for us. And for that reason, we will stand and endure. After all, we have the support of our friends and family!
Leaving you with a final thought from Jen Hatmaker:
“When you say YES to adoption, you are saying YES to enter the suffering of the orphan, and that suffering includes WAITING FOR YOU TO GET TO THEM. I promise you, their suffering is worse than yours. We say YES to the tears, YES to the longing, YES to the maddening process, YES to the money, YES to hope, YES to the screaming frustration of it all, YES to going the distance through every unforeseen discouragement and delay. Do not imagine that something outside of “your perfect plan” means you heard God wrong. There is NO perfect adoption. EVERY adoption has snags. We Americans invented the “show me a sign” or “this is a sign” or “this must mean God is closing a door” or “God must not be in this because it is hard,” but all that is garbage. You know what’s hard? Being an orphan. They need us to be champions and heroes for them, fighting like hell to get them home. So we will. We may cry and rage and scream and wail in the process, but get them home we will.”